Tonight, the Jewish community will begin Shabbat (the Sabbath) by reflecting upon the themes in Eikev (Deuteronomy 7:12-11:25; Isaiah 49:14-51:3) which contains the final words of wisdom from Moses to the Children of Israel, including: “Perhaps you will say in your heart: these nations are greater than I (…) do not fear them, but remember what the Lord did (…) you shall not be terrified (…) nor your heart lifted up and you forget the Lord (…) Who brought you out of the land of Ancient Egypt, from the house of slavery, Who led you through that great and awesome wilderness.” (7:17-8:15)
Traditional rabbinic commentary understands the wilderness to be not only a historic experience and a geographic location, but also a state of mind: it is all too easy to let fear or ego control us… to feel overwhelmed. They taught that we are no different than the Children of Israel who compared themselves to the other nations, and found themselves lacking- we too may feel like we are wandering in a desert that feels great and awesome and terrifying… We give power to others, and perceive the outside world to be “awesome” and we forget where our deepest Power dwells. When we allow the outside world to define us, to become more powerful a voice than the “still, small Voice” deep within, then we become enslaved to a reality that can never save us. But, when we remember that we are not in that wilderness alone… rather, we are being led through there by a Force that will guide us and support us in difficult moments, no less than we were fed by manna in the desert so long ago… then we can let go of the fear and begin to trust…
This biblical passage also speaks about the dangers of idolatry: “the carvings of their gods shall you burn with fire: you shall not desire the silver or gold that is on them, or take it to you, lest you be ensnared with it (…) neither shall you bring an abomination into your house, lest you become accursed like it.” The deeper meaning is a reminder not to bring the external inside: not to let the physical world become more powerful than that of the heart and spirit. When we look at others, see their external reality, such as wealth, possessions or the appearance of success, and compare this to our inner lives, replete with doubts and regrets, too often we find ourselves lacking. Contemporary research warns that this phenomenon can be seen in the rising rates of depression and low-self-esteem that come from watching other people’s social media, and believing that their smiling postings and hundreds of likes somehow reflects a reality that is greater and “more awesome” than our own experience of wilderness and desert. Furthermore, frequent checking and posting to social media sites can lead to increased rates of social alienation, depression and anxiety. Traditional Jews observe Shabbat (the Sabbath) and holidays by disconnecting with electricity. What would happen if we, 21st century creatures, took a whole day a week to disconnect from social media… or if we were to observe that practice on our own personal “holy days”… those times that matter the most… get-togethers with family and friends?
Regardless of our religious beliefs, we don’t have to look far to think about how fear of what others will think impacts us. The danger is when we do or say something because we think we are supposed to, and not because it is true- this can lead to a feeling of disingenuousness and cognitive dissonance that can leave us feeling worse about ourselves. Our organizational core value of “integrity” is a reminder that we should always “do the right thing, in the right way, for the right reason”- we wash our hands before entering a patient room, regardless of whether anyone is watching. We follow our rules and protocols, regardless of whether Joint Commission is visiting our hospital. Yet, do we translate this way of living into our own lives? Do we say things or do things because we think we are supposed to do so? Do we put ourselves down, or fear that others will think less of us if they know “the real me”?
This coming week, let us take time to stop, and make space to listen to the “still, small voice” deep within… Let us let go of the fear of what others will think of us… let us let go of anxiety… let us relinquish control of the ego… May we disconnect from all that we do not experience as life-giving, and instead, refuel by turning inward… May we reconnect to our deepest Power, and may this help us to live with integrity, contentment and peace. May we be more fully ourselves… and connect more fully and authentically with others… and may this experience of connection and intimacy affirm for us our true worth. May we be blessed as we bless one another with the most precious of gifts… the gift of self/Self.
Originally from Montreal, Canada, I studied in Jerusalem at several Orthodox yeshivas, prior to beginning my studies as a Reform rabbi at Hebrew Union College. I am a second generation Holocaust survivor, and early on, wanted to do whatever I could to build a world where hatred and prejudice would never again have the upper hand.
For me, studying Judaism from traditional perspectives was crucial because “it was important to understand what we are reforming”. I believe in making educated choices from the rich set of resources provided by Jewish tradition, in order to ensure that every ritual and prayer is meaningful. I was a founding board member of the Society of Classical Reform Judaism (now Roots of Reform), due to my unwavering commitment to advocacy for interfaith families and the creation of inclusive Jewish communities that are unconditionally welcoming of all spiritual seekers, regardless of their religious background, relationship status, identity or Hebrew speaking ability.
In addition to nearly two decades working in synagogues, teaching, counseling and participating in life cycle events, I am also a social worker, psychotherapist, mediator and trained as an interfaith chaplain. I worked with the American Red Cross after 9/11, providing counseling and support at the family assistance center, Ground Zero and the morgue. My doctoral research was focused on burnout and compassion fatigue, as part of my years of work in hospice and palliative care. My life experiences have taught me hope and how to cultivate resilience and wisdom.
This blog reflects my attempts to distill rabbinic wisdom into insights that can speak to all people. I have dedicated my life to healing and spiritual alchemy. I first began the writings that formed the basis of this blog as part of my role as Vice President of Mission for KentuckyOne Health, an interfaith hospital system that brought together Catholic, secular and Jewish hospital systems, in order to bring wellness, healing and hope to all, including the underserved. I began my weekly reflections on the Torah portion, in order to share some of Jewish Hospital's heritage and values with staff that may not have known much about Judaism. These reflections were then shared by staff with others who asked to be placed on my blind copy list, as well as by the system mission leader of Catholic Health Initiatives to his own reader list, along with his own reflections.
I have been profoundly humbled by the reactions to these writings, and as more people have asked to have access to them, I eventually worked to overcome my discomfort with the internet in order to publish them online. I realized that Jews and non-Jews were drawn to my inclusive interpretations of the biblical text, and my reflections on how to apply these in our every day. I believe that, much like the Sufi teaching that describes all the religions of the world like different prayer beads, with the same string of truth that runs through each of them, so too can these ancient spiritual and mystical teachings can come to life, when we reflect on the echoes of other world traditions and by contemporary psychological theory.
As my professional journey has continued to evolve, and I have found myself transitioning from pulpit rabbi to community rabbi, to who I am becoming as I seek to move beyond all labels, I have found that this site remains an important way for people to get to know me, and understand my theology.
I am fundamentally committed to the sacred act of translation- seeking to discern the Divine through text and life, and to translate those words of Torah and wisdom into reflections that can speak to people of all faith traditions... and in so doing, hopefully encouraging others to do the same. We are all created in the Image of G!d, and as such, each of us has our own unique understanding of the Sacred. In the same way as the rabbis teach that if even one letter from the scroll of the Torah is missing, the entire Torah has lost its sacredness (is no longer kosher), so too is this world diminished so long as people silence themselves. For too long, organized religion has been used as a weapon, to keep people silent and to teach shame... my quest as a rabbi, and indeed, as a human being, is to work to translate religious teachings into redemptive and healing truths, to seek to liberate s/Spirit and to work toward "tikkun olam" (the healing of the universe).
My current rabbinate is dedicated to teaching and mentoring other rabbis, and working with interfaith families, as well as those traditionally marginalized from mainstream Judaism. In the same way as the holiness of the Jewish prayer shawl (tallit) can be found in its fringes (tzitzit) so too do I believe that the most important contribution I can make to the Jewish people is "Keruv" (helping people find their way home), and to the broader world is "shleimut" (helping people to find wholeness). I also serve G!d as a social worker, doing what I can to work for justice for all people.
It is my prayer that the insights in this blog will bring healing and insight to others, and encourage others to find their voice and path. Thank you for your time reading my work.
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